Negotiating plays a significant role in nearly every divorce. Parties often must negotiate matters like child custody, property division and even spousal support. At some point, these negotiations can stall, or parties might reach a stalemate. Rather than let these obstacles derail the process, you might consider steps to keep things moving.
Consult the professionals
If you are trying to work through divorce-related issues yourselves, things like emotions, misinterpretations about the law and communication difficulties can easily disrupt discussions.
This is where the help of trained professionals can be essential.
- Mediators and lawyers can help you identify fair and agreeable solutions.
- Financial advisors and forensic accountants can provide guidance on complicated economic factors.
- Counselors and therapists can help individuals cope with complex personal matters that could be hindering negotiations.
These parties often have access to the tools you need to move forward.
Go to court
If you are at the point where you simply cannot agree on something or your ex shuts down and refuses to engage in any more negotiations, going to court can be necessary.
Litigation is typically the last resort for parties unwilling or unable to resolve contested matters through mediation. It can be costly and time-consuming, so it is important to make concerted efforts to engage in good-faith negotiations.
Take a break
Getting frustrated or angry when you cannot finalize a specific issue can increase tension and stress. These emotions can cloud your judgment, so taking a break can be crucial.
In fact, taking time to step back, think about your situation and regain your composure could make you a better negotiator.
Change the subject
If you cannot move forward with one aspect of your divorce, you can shift your attention to other matters. For example, if you cannot figure out how to divide the holidays with your kids, shifting gears to talk about something like what to do with a home can help.
While this may not work if you have already resolved all other issues, changing the subject can help table a discussion and make headway in another area.
These strategies can help parties move forward in negotiations and their divorce.