Any person ending their marriage will likely turn to others for help navigating some element of the process, whether for financial, emotional or legal aspects. Reaching out for help is crucial throughout a divorce, but it is essential to remember that not all advice is the same.
Acquaintances or friends
Your loved ones may be the first people you told about your divorce. And they can provide a great deal of emotional support through babysitting offers, a shoulder to lean on and a place to feel safe. They may be able to help with staying busy and positive.
However, the fact is that there is a lot they may not know when it comes to the legal aspects of your split.
Another critical thing to note here is that using social media during divorce can be a pitfall. Online communities can be a trove of bad or misguided advice. Making legal decisions based on something someone you may or may not know personally says online can be a costly mistake.
TV or movies
Some legal matters have become cliches in a storyline. Issues like paternity, alimony or child custody serve as a way to add drama, introduce new characters or create conflict. Often, they get glossed over or resolved quickly and neatly.
The reality of these issues, however, is that they vary widely from case to case. Some are complicated and highly sensitive; others require little more than adding a clause to a legal document.
The sensationalism and oversimplification depicted by entertainment can create unreasonable expectations in real-world cases.
Unqualified professionals
Seeking help from professionals can be the best way to get accurate, realistic guidance on divorce-related issues. However, if these professionals are untrained, inexperienced or dishonest, it can be wise to avoid them.
When you are reaching out to attorneys, accountants, mental health counselors or child custody specialists, take note of a few things:
- Their qualifications
- Their experience
- Their background
- Their licensing and permissions to practice in specific areas
- Their history with cases like yours
Considering these elements carefully can help you find the right parties to help you navigate complicated situations.
