How to defend against lies in a divorce?

On Behalf of | Apr 25, 2023 | Divorce

Divorce is difficult for everyone, and most divorces are emotionally charged. Sometimes these intense feelings lead people to do things they wouldn’t normally do, such as spread lies about their soon-to-be former spouse, and even though they know they are doing it, it is quite possibly coming from a place of grief and emotional difficulty. 

It is vital that, if you are being lied about, you arm yourself with as much as you can to protect yourself. You need to protect your reputation and you can do this without lowering yourself to the level of the individual who lies about you. For example, if your origins are a family of wealth and are well-known for their charitable work and causes in society, you may want to prevent a stain on your family’s legacy. 

Things you can do if your soon-to-be former spouse is lying about you

  1. Document everything. Keep track of every action they take toward you.
  2. Try your best to keep quiet and let them talk.
  3. Go to your contacts and the most influential people you know and share with them what you are going through.
  4. Be careful what you say. This is primarily relevant if you need someone to back you up.
  5. Follow the laws — no one is above the law, which is one of the most important things to understand.

While we cannot prevent other people’s actions, we can act to protect ourselves from the harm they are trying to create. It is possible to do that without harming them back. Frankly, that makes you honorable, and the court will see through the lies at the end of the day.